It's important to note that filtering yourself doesn’t mean changing who you are—all the facets that make you unique remain intact. Rather, using filters is a sign of empathy and clears the way for a harmonious and productive work environment. You gain a deeper awareness of how your communication style affects others, which is an effective tool in any setting.
Here are a few workplace behavior filters you can use on a day to day basis:
1. Act as if you were a guest in someone’s home. When in doubt, use the Guest Filter (shown above). Posturing yourself towards others from a place of respect and gratitude is a surefire way to establish clean ground for effective communication
2. Think about an influential person in your life whom you look up to (perhaps a grandparent or former teacher). Would you be totally comfortable saying or doing what you’re saying or doing if that person were presents? There's a good chance that the person you pick for this filter has helped you see the best in yourself. So, do them proud—be your best self at work.
3. Use the "Kid" Filter. Have you ever noticed that many adults "clean up their act" when there are kids around? They do so because they don't want their words to have a negative impact on any young children within earshot. Why shouldn't we bring the same care and caution to co-workers and customers? Using the "kid" filter simply means asking yourself: Is my word choice appropriate for those who are listening? How about the references I'm using, or stories I'm telling?
In addition to Behavior Filters, we have Perception Filters: the way we see or perceive the world. Perception filters are unique to each individual and are shaped by multiple factors including our personal upbringing, experiences, values, and cultures.
Communication isn’t only the exchange of words—it’s a simultaneous exchange of body language, vocal inflection, and facial expression. Depending on any of the factors above, your understanding of a particular statement, gesture, or tone could be the difference between true comprehension or misinterpretation.
Becoming aware of perception filters—both your own and those of others—is key to fostering true understanding.
Here are a few tips you can use to start:
1. Check Your Biases. What are your triggers? Sensitivities? Biases? Becoming aware of these allows you to better understand your reactions to certain messages.
2. Clarify. If someone’s message doesn’t resonate with you, dig a little deeper. Ask questions, clarify, repeat back what you think the other person said. Only when you have the full picture can you draw conclusions.
3. Notice People’s Reactions. Becoming aware of other people’s reactions to you allows you to adjust your behavior to meet their needs. Doing so instantly makes you a better communicator. When you’re interacting with others, take note of their engagement, emotional reactions, and body language.
4. When Necessary, Adjust Your Behavior. Should you find that someone takes offense to something you say or do, be willing to clarify, rephrase, or apologize.
Recognizing the impact filters have on communication can drastically change our efficacy—at work or in our personal lives. The key is to understand how we can use them, and it starts with being self-aware.
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